I just had an ex friend jump scare me with a message this morning on LinkedIn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
He offered to help find me a job.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I told him that I felt trepidation about talking, and he went on to blame me for being ableist, because I cut him off when he told me I’m not trans.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
He claimed to be Palestinian now, despite his parents being Arab and Romanian.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
He said it was problematic that I told him he was aggressive in a way that implies it’s racist to ever claim a Palestinian could be aggressive. Not even going to unpack that…<\/p>\n\n\n\n
And somehow as per usual he pulled the narcissistic trick of not only failing to admit any fault, but finding a way to blame me and make me feel awful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Finally I blocked him on LinkedIn too. It’s hard as he was the one friend I had consistently spent time with since early childhood until a few years ago.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I just hate that he seems to have learned nothing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Also obviously I said that I’m neurodivergent too, and it’s not an excuse. I don’t act that way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It makes me sad but also stressed out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I guess I’ll continue never talking to him again if I can help it.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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